How to Make a Guy Fall For You

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Wondering how to make a guy fall for you? Perhaps there is a man around you and there is something more than that … Exactly, you are in love.

But there is only one small thing:

  • You are not sure if he likes you.


  • You know for sure that he is not in love with you.

And this is by far the most frequently asked question I get from women. They ask, “how to make a man fall in love”.

They prefer to hear a magical solution to make a man fall in love who works anywhere and anytime within a few minutes. In this article, I will give you 23 tips to make a man fall in love with you.

It is the secret male obsession for the right answer to a man’s heart. When you discover all the techniques, you will be able to make the guy of your liking feel the strong desire for you which is truly powerful. You’ll end up being an important part of your man’s life. Continue to read here

How to Make a Guy Fall For You

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What I mean by this:

Try to undertake as many different activities with him in as many different locations as possible.

This creates the illusion that you have known each other for a long time, for example:

  • Exercise together.
  • Have a drink in the city.
  • On an adventure to the zoo.

Make sure you have as many different memories together as possible, not only will he get the feeling of knowing you longer, but it will also make you enjoy it a lot more.

After all, you are the one with whom he has all those crazy adventures, this will make him long for more.

Bonus tip: If you really want to give him that butterfly-in-the-belly feeling, do an adrenaline-boosting activity together.

Research shows that this drastically strengthens the mutual connection. For example, go bungee jumping, even playing a game of twister already works wonders. Left foot on … green.

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So you’ve been dating for a while and you think it’s time for the next step? Although this may be tempting to tell him directly …

Do not do it.

You can give him some subtle hints, but above all, give him time.

A man wants to think that a relationship was his idea, typically such a (stupid) male trait that you can not blame him.

Even if you recognize several signs that he is in love with you.

When he feels that you are trying to force a relationship, he will think that you are desperate or wrong.

So give him space and time, especially in the initial phase.

If it feels to him that the relationship was his idea, he will not let you go soon, thereby preventing him from saying he wants to slow down.

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I keep finding it funny, the impact of eye contact is and remains underestimated. It is simply a great way to generate (sexual) tension in a man.

You can literally seduce him through eye contact without saying a word to him.

Ever heard of the movie Twilight?

This film clearly shows what eye contact with two people can do, so you see that an incredible amount of tension is built up between Edward and Bella. If you don’t know the movie, here’s a small impression:

As you can see, eye contact plays an incredibly big role here, so make sure you use it too.

But I have to say that there are some do’s and don’ts because you don’t want to come across as a weirdo to him.

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Touching him is so incredibly important that it would simply be foolish not to use it. You don’t even have to believe me on my blue eyes:

In 1992, a survey was conducted that shows that you are estimated to be more attractive, nicer and longer when you touch someone.

Well, you are not supposed to be pawing (save that for a later time).


I mean touches like:

  • Dressing his clothes.
  • Put your hand on his shoulder when he’s kidding.
  • Give him a playful punch when he makes a silly remark.

This is because he will feel more confident when you touch him occasionally.

This creates the idea that he has a chance, so you give him the green light to fall in love with you.

How do you do this? Well look, it’s exactly the way Fanelli puts it:

“Rather than spending your time trying to lure him in, remember that people who are comfortable with themselves are interesting because they’re doing things that make them happy, and that’s very attractive.”

Dr. Joe Fanelli

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What we can learn from this is that having a nice life will make him find you more attractive.

You can apply all the other tips in this article, but if you do not have a fun and interesting life, he will turn it off.

So make sure you have a fun and interesting life, do the things you always wanted to do from an early age (but that your mom might have banned you).

Not only will this make you more attractive, but it will also simply make your life more fun. Win-win.

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This may be a bit tricky because when you’re in love you want to see him as often as possible.

Understandable, only there is a problem:

This quickly gives the impression that you are “easy”. And men think that — even if he likes you — very unattractive.

If you want a man to fall in love with you, let him make an effort for you. Make sure he puts time and energy into you.

This will make you see more value, people will appreciate it more if they have to work hard for something. In addition, there is also a performance urge in men, which is important.

Some simple things you can do to make sure he puts time and energy into you

  1. Ask him for advice, for example about something that happened at work. Even if you don’t really need his advice at all, asking for it will give you bonus points.
  2. Let him solve a problem in your house, for example, let him change a lamp. I don’t mean by this to be helpless and weak, but it’s nice to let him work just a little bit for you.

In addition, you want to prevent him from seeing you as “too easy”. Right, you want him to make an effort for you. So, for example, if he suggests meeting up with him on a Monday night at 10:00 PM, say:

“Sorry, I’m not such a woman. If you want to be with me then at least I want you to put in a little effort. Let’s go there and there next Saturday, because that’s a lot more fun. ”

In short. Let him put a lot of time, energy and effort into you.

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We already talked about it in the previous tip, asking him for advice is a nice way to make him fall in love with you. But this does not mean that you suddenly have to ask for advice about everything.

This is counterproductive.

Men like women who occasionally dare to share their opinion, it is not without reason that one of the biggest turn-offs for men is a woman without opinion.

So if he asks you:

“What do you fancy?”

Then don’t say:

“I do not know…”

… But just say what you feel like at the time.

In other words, don’t forget to give your opinion every now and then.

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The male brain reacts differently from a woman’s brain to visual stimuli. It turns out that a man’s brain reacts much more strongly to the display of sexually tinted pictures.

Right, the superficiality of men is confirmed here for the umpteenth time.

Now we can do two things:

  1. Complain about the superficiality of men.
  2. Accepting and making smart use of this.

The second option is my personal preference and I am happy that you feel the same way.

Looking handsome? Take care of yourself

I really don’t mean to starve yourself and loot the clothing stores with your credit card.

What I do mean:

  • Put on nice clothes.
  • Spend time on your hygiene.
  • Take the time to get ready.
  • Spend time in the gym weekly.

It doesn’t have to be all that extreme, as long as he can see that you spend time on your appearance and generally take good care of yourself. Men receive this as:

“Gosh, she made an effort for me, maybe I might have a chance.”

If you want to make him fall in love with you, this step is indispensable.

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From studies and surveys have shown that women want a man with humor.

And that is quite funny because men are looking for a woman who can make them smile. As if it had to be that way.

By laughing at his jokes you give him the confirmation that almost every man is looking for, this will make him think:

“She laughs at my jokes, I knew it, I’m so funny too.”

You caress his ego and impulsively he will feel better about himself, meanwhile, he thinks that you are the one who brings out this feeling in him.

For that reason, he will want to see you more and more and like you more.

The funny thing is that this is the same with every man, every man you meet will try to make you smile. So take this opportunity to laugh at his jokes.

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You’ve probably heard of love in a man’s stomach? Although there is a (small) grain of truth in this, there are a number of things that are much more important than food …

Sex is one of them.

I don’t need to tell you that good sex life is important for a good relationship. Otherwise with these.

Well, I don’t want to say that you have to get into the bed with him on the first best night, but if you guys have been dating for a while, at least make sure it’s okay in the bedroom. And not entirely unimportant:

That it remains good.

Being great will make him like you more and stay in a relationship with you longer.

How do you ensure that the sex is (and remains) good?

I was hoping you’d ask.

Here I wrote an article with 13 tips on what men want in bed. Click here to read this article.

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You will come across this trick in all fields, the smartest business people even use it. There is, of course, a very good reason for this:

It’s working.

We, humans, are attracted to people who are “the same” as us.

Something as simple as copying his movements will make him feel more attracted to you. A survey shows that it is not only about movement, but that timing also plays a role.

Mirror examples of him

  • When he smiles, smile back.
  • If he puts his hand on his leg, put your hand on your leg.

This will create a lot of attraction without him realizing it. Please note that you leave the male movements to him and do not try to imitate them.

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It may sound a little crazy, but this time I literally mean to expose yourself to him.

For 40% to be precise. This is evident from an investigation by Leeds University to be the right amount of exposure.

(The image opposite shows the correct amount of exposure.)

They discovered that when a woman had 40% skin visible, she was found to be the most attractive.

So when you go on a date and the opportunity allows, make smart use of it.

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It is true that the first dates are often a bit superficial and light-hearted, and there is nothing wrong with that. It is new and exciting in the beginning.

… Anyway, you are already a few dates away.

If you want to win it all over for you, then it is high time to have some more in-depth conversations. These conversations ensure that there is a deeper connection between the two of you.

This is evident from an experiment that:

  • In-depth conversations increase the bond of trust and the willingness to enter into a relationship.
  • Hiding information from each other has the opposite effect.

In other words, through in-depth conversations, you create a real connection with him. This connection will make him consider you “relationship material”.

“But Tim, what exactly do you mean by in-depth conversations?”

By this, I mean talking about things that you don’t normally talk about.

For example, say:

“I never actually tell this to anyone, but in the past … [describe an experience from the past] …”

Now it can be a bit scary to tell a personal story, it is always difficult to be vulnerable.

But if you really like him, it can just make him feel a bond he has with no one else, simply because you are so honest.

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Today, few people really listen to each other.

Everyone seems to feel the urge to prove themselves to the other.

This translates into:

  • Men who brag continuously.
  • Women who talk about themselves in one piece.

With this, we only forget one very important thing and there is no one who can describe that better than Dale does:

“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”

Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People

By showing interest in a man, he will automatically show more interest in you, this is such a typical trait that every person has.

So when you meet up with him, make sure to listen actively and ask questions. This will make him like you much more than if you try to convince him of how nice you are.

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There are many women who tell a man directly that they are in love with him — be it after one or after 30 days — this remains a bad idea.

By telling him that you are in love with him, you are depriving him of the chance to fall in love with you.

Because men want to conquer you at the beginning of a relationship and if it is immediately clear that you are in love with him, there is nothing left to conquer.

So keep it to yourself, otherwise, you will make it a lot harder for yourself than it already is.

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If you’ve been dating for a while and have shared the bed together, it’s time for the next step.

What is the next step?


If you have no idea what sexting is then I understand that. Sexting is sending exciting messages. You may be thinking now:

“Phew. Nice and important. ”

I thought so too until research showed how important sexting actually is.

Not surprising that 88% reported having used sexting at some point in a survey.

All in all, enough reason to make use of this.

Well, you might wonder how best to send such an exciting message? To be honest, this is more difficult than you would initially think.

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From a biological point of view, men are not very inclined to enter into a relationship with someone.

Simply because in the past they did not need the protection of a woman.

The other way around, of course, is the same story, but that aside.

Anyway, there is one thing that makes all men want to “own” a woman. Possession may sound a bit bad, but that’s how it truly feels with us.

What is that thing? Jealousy.

Jealousy makes him feel he has to fight for you

And even though men don’t like to admit it, this “must-fight-for-her-feeling” creates a lot of appeals.

In one fell swoop, he will realize how much fun you actually are.

He now runs the “risk” of losing you, and he doesn’t want to.

When he realizes this, he will automatically like you more and try harder for you.

But don’t try to make him TOO jealous. For example, what you can do is:

  • Upload “accidentally” and photo with another man on your Facebook.
  • Whenever possible, say in a conversation, “I was drinking with … (name) … and he told me … [which applies to your conversation] …”

So play with this a little bit, but don’t make it too furious.

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An attractive man is not satisfied with a woman who does not know what she wants.

This gives the impression that it is a desperate woman who settles for the first best man.

And that is simply far from attractive.

In other words, let him know what type of man you like.

Even if that description looks very much like him, it doesn’t matter. Because by leaving him what you are looking for in a man, he will think:

Gosh. She knows exactly what she is looking for in a man. ”

This is anything but desperate.

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This may sound a little silly, but psychologist Arthur Aron used these 36 questions in his lab to make two people fall in love.

I am aware of how strange this sounds, but not a word has been lied to.

Even stranger than it sounds are the results. That was enough reason for me to write about it.

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If you’ve ever dated a man who sometimes responds to your message within 10 seconds and the other time doesn’t say anything … Then you know what I mean, this causes a lot of confusion and sometimes even a bit of frustration.

The reason this works so well — and it doesn’t matter if you are a man or a woman — is because it is unpredictable.

Because when a person systematically knows what is going to happen, the fun is quickly over. That’s why watching a movie for the second time is much less fun:

It’s boring because you know exactly what’s going to happen.

Instead of repeating the same film over and over again, you want a new film, because a film that you do not know yet is much more exciting.

The same goes for a relationship

When every week is the same, there will be a day when one of you says:

“I no longer pull this off …”

Nobody wants a boring relationship. And you can prevent that by simply providing variation. Sometimes it gives him a lot of attention and other times not. Be a bit distant one moment and not the next.

Well, you understand my point, provide variety.

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When you want to make him fall in love with you, it is important that he gets to know you well, but on the other hand, it is important to remain a little mysterious.

This because he will then think:

“I don’t know what it is about her, she has something mysterious.”

And men love this, you are simply not predictable. As a result, he wants to know more about you, because there is still so much of you that he does not know …

So don’t tell him your whole life story from day one, but be interested in him instead (tip # 14). Tell some things about yourself and then talk about him again.

In this way he will want to know more and more about you, this is often the moment when he is falling in love with you.

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You know what I mean:

  • Give him the sexy look.
  • Make an ambiguous comment subtly.
  • Run your fingers through the hair when he says something to you.
  • Wiggle your upper body a little when you are talking.
  • Give him your brightest smile when he says something funny to you.

… And so on.

It is true that men are not good at picking up subtle signals, but flirting is a completely different story.

Men simply love these kinds of subtle signals and will make him think of you continuously. He will long for the next time you see him and meanwhile, his sexual fantasies run wild.

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Picture yourself a little caring to him, by this I mean:

  • Decent his clothes.
  • Cook for him once.
  • Bring him a cup of coffee in the morning when he wakes up.
  • Send a message to ask him how his sick grandmother is in the hospital.

It may sound a bit strange, but these kinds of caring things remind him of a bit of his mother.

… Every man has a talent for looking for a woman who would also be a good mother. Because instinctively men are looking for:

  1. A woman who is sexy (tip # 7).
  2. A woman they have to make an effort for (tip # 5).
  3. A woman who is caring and can take good care of other people.

By making sure that you do something caring for him every now and then, he will see you as “relationship material” more quickly.

“Is this all it takes on how to make a guy fall for you?”


The above tips are good; applying these tips will dramatically increase the chances of him falling in love with you.

But there is one more way to make him fall in love with you that I haven’t talked about yet.

It is the secret male obsession for the right answer to a man’s heart. When you discover all the techniques, you will be able to make the guy of your liking feel the strong desire for you which is truly powerful. You’ll end up being an important part of your man’s life. Continue to read here

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How to Make a Guy Fall For You by Theresa Alice

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I’ve been experiencing a lot about relationship. I write about marriage, relationships, love and breakups. Thanks for viewing my articles.

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