Let Him Come to You After a Break Up — 12 Tips

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You have heard about this saying, Let Him Come to You After a Break Up, but how do you do it? In this article you will learn:

  • How to fuel a man ‘s desire so that he can only think of you. Even when it’s out, and he’s your ex.
  • How you make sure he misses you.
  • What are the things you absolutely should not do to get his attention?

How do I make him fall in love with me again?

I know, I know.

If a man broke up, it’s a shock. And you don’t know what to do.

I understand that you prefer nothing more than to have him come back to you. But in this article, I’m going to get you back to reality. And help you as far as my experience as a dating coach allows.

Because I am keen to advise you on honor and trust.

There are indeed possibilities to ensure that he will miss you.

But they are not what you think.

“You have been lied to.”

Women’s magazines and dating coaches sell nonsense. Men will never go against it because they find it unmanly.

But making a man long for you is at the same time easier and more difficult than you have imagined.

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Let Him Come to You After a Break-Up

And by the way, I’m assuming it’s over between you and your ex. And that it is mainly up to you to get it back.

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Tip 1: Realize that most break-ups are final

I regularly receive emails from women who are completely upset.

Their partner has just let them down. Or at least, just….

After all, it is a few months out. But the aftermath of that relationship was horrible.

She went out of her way to get him back. And that is very normal. Because if you love someone a lot, and this person disappears from your life, then you want to do everything to get this man back.

7 ways so that he can be heard

And because of all the emotional pressure …

… from anger to sadness, combined with an enormous desire …

… you can no longer logically think about how you can best approach this.

I often receive emails in which women write to me:

They have sent their ex 1000 apps (as a romantic gesture) but he does not respond.

They think they will never find someone like him again — and posted this on their Facebook.

Over the last few months saw their relationship change in a train wreck, but did everything to get on top of it.

I always have to tell those women that there is little chance that they will get their husbands back. Not only because the aforementioned situations are downright hopeless.

Even when the relationship is in good shape, the chance is relatively small.

Those women can then end up with a dating coach who is happy to fool them.

Who tells them that it is possible to always get your ex back. No matter how bad the situation is. And no matter how hard he told you that he doesn’t want to know anything about you anymore.

That is of course not realistic at all. Because if I can’t do it already — with more than eight years of experience and thousands of people I have successfully coached — how are those more inexperienced scammers than succeeding?

And that brings us to tip 2:

Tip 2: A male whisperer? It does not exist.

I can’t change your ex. And I can’t suddenly make him fall in love with you again. Anyone who says he can do that is a liar.

Certainly, if the relationship has systematically broken, and you are now looking for a way to get it back. Then I have to disappoint you. It is very little you can still do.

Simple tricks so he longs for you

And I will teach you how to do this in the rest of this article.

But you shouldn’t misunderstand this as a simple way to get your ex back. Think of it as a way in which you increase the likelihood that you will remind him of you.

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Tip 3: Make sure you exercise it

To ensure that your husband misses you, the first thing to do is to feel comfortable in your skin again.

He has fallen in love with a strong, independent woman. Not a woman who is sitting on the couch, sloshing away with white sorrow.

Do you understand?

I can’t blame you. God knows that I cannot be enjoyed when I am in love.

But don’t tell:

For the rest of the world, I pretend to be made of steel.

Such emotions are very normal. Everyone goes through them. And at the same time, a lot of tension is built up in your body.

Now you have two choices:

Are you going to use that tension to come out stronger, or to eat yourself?

“ By exercising, you ensure that you convert that energy into something positive. “

So you want to make sure your friend misses you …

…What do you think of this?

By exercising you get rid of your emotions, just when they reign.

You focus your attention on something else. It is impossible to banish a man from your memory if you are emotional or are sitting on the couch with a bowl of ice. But if you focus your attention entirely on exercising, it will be a lot easier.

Sports give you a nice appearance, even if you don’t do it too hard. You remove the tension from your body and therefore you make a more relaxed and positive impression.

Depending on the sport you do you can burn fat or get nicer forms. And that is always nice.

Did I mention that sports have many positive effects on your state of mind? It is the only method, apart from medication, that causes people who are depressed to recover.

Whether you are completely comfortable in your skin or not yet, tip 4 helps you further:

Tip 4: Make your social connections stronger

To ensure that you become the woman again when he met you and that you let him miss you, it is important that you focus on your social life.

In times of love sorrow, there is a good chance that you will feel lonely.

It is then almost impossible to keep it positive. And suppose he wants to give you a chance. Then he will soon find out that you are not nearly as cozy as before.

So in case he starts missing you:

Tighten the ties with your family. Maybe you haven’t seen your grandmother in three weeks. Did you know that family is one of the decisive factors in people’s lives, throughout their lives?

Spend time with girlfriends. Both the kind that gives you emotional support, as well as the girlfriends who want to distract you and take you away.

Flirt with men. There is nothing wrong with sniffing around, even though you want him back and make sure he starts to yearn for you. Sharpen your flirting skills with the help of these 13 tips to better flirt with men.

Tip 5: Do not try to convince him

You miss him. I find that very understandable.

You ask yourself: “ Is he going to miss me? When? “I understand that too.

And you want him to miss you as much as you do.

But do you want to promise me one thing?

Don’t you want to try to convince him? Not even in a moment of weakness?

Because whether it works or not …

… you always have a big problem.

There are two ways in which women try to convince their husbands:

Method 1: The rational way

This contains arguments such as “ we have been together for ten years “ and “ you are not throwing away what we have built up together.” “

Method 2: The emotional way

Here you go completely overboard with your emotions, and let him feel how much it hurts you. Think of: “ I can’t live without you. “And:” When you leave, I commit suicide. “

Pay attention:

If you try to convince a man to miss you, chances are that he will not go along with it.

But there is also a small chance that he will go along with it. And then you have a bigger problem if possible.

“What happens if you can convince him.”

At such a moment he did not make the choice to be with you because he is in love with you again. He does it because you have convinced him that it is the right decision … or out of pity (if you have chosen the emotional route).

So this is not from him at all.

And he will never be happy in this way.

Maybe your relationship will last for another six months. Maybe longer or shorter. But after that, it will extinguish like a night candle. And you are back again.

Tip 6: Give your ex the chance to miss you

He can only miss you when you are no longer in contact with him.

I recommend that couples who have a hard time always take a step back. Also, couples who are doing very well, by the way.

That feeling of missing each other is a much stronger binder than being close to each other 24/7.

I know how scary this is.

Letting someone go in the hope that he will come back to you feels like a huge risk.

But research shows that men, just like women, do not remain untouched if you break all contact with them.

And do you know what it is?

It is the only way it can work.

For example for the following reason:

It is quite common for couples to separate for a few weeks.

One person gets doubts about the relationship, and it matters. After three weeks he thinks something like this: “ What have I done? “And he calls you to make up.

This happens with some regularity, and you may have done it yourself.

Don’t be that girl.

What hardly ever occurs is that he decides …

… and the woman sends him text messages every day if he wants to come back …

… or stands on the sidewalk and sticks sweet notes on the window …

… and so on and so forth.

If you do this, you will ruin every opportunity. You show him that you don’t respect no. And thus his ego will be hurt.

This is disastrous since pumping up his ego is just one of the ways to make a man fall in love with you.

But that is not the only thing:

Tips so that he cannot forget you and longs for you

As a result, he will never reconsider his decision. And that he will get over it faster after a few weeks.

Simple right?

If you want a chance that he will come back to you …and Let Him Come to You After a Break Up… then make sure he is no longer in your life.

Tip 7: Make him a little jealous. make him jealous so he misses you

When do you think your ex will get a little jealous?

Believe me … If he sees that you are posting a photo with another man on Facebook while he misses you …

… then he becomes white-hot.

This is a bonus tip that I recommend you use with scarcity.

(Also read my article about making men jealous )

But it doesn’t hurt to let you know very subtly that you are back on the market.

He will realize the consequences of his actions. And he will feel that you are out of his life.

And take it from me …

… if he misses you a little, he’ll keep an eye on your Facebook.

Here is also a video with a number of other tricks that you can use. The video was recorded a while ago, but nicely summarizes this blog:

Tip 8: Use social media strategically

I already mentioned above that you can make him a little jealous. For example, by posting a photo with you and another man on Facebook.

You should not exaggerate this of course. If you change your profile photo to a photo with another guy and your relationship status changes to “ busy — with that new man “, then that is way too much.

A simple photo on your timeline with a semi-friendly image is enough.

You should also not post to social media continuously. Especially if you didn’t do that while you were in a relationship. Because the more often he reads your messages, the less he will miss you.

Because you keep him informed of what is going on in your life, he feels that he is still in contact with you. But if he doesn’t see any sign of life (except perhaps that jealous photo), he starts to wonder what the hell you’re doing.

He wants to know all about it. And may think:

Wow, I don’t know what the consequences of the break-up are for her. Let me inform.

If he then contacts, you do not give at home.

He broke up, and now he has to sit on the blisters. I know this is hard for you, but this is the way to get it back later.

That he seeks contact with you is the first step. It shows that he is still interested in you. Now it’s just a matter of finding out what that interest is.

Tip 9: Solve the problem

Did he break up because he no longer felt good in the relationship? Or that he wanted something different with his life?

In both cases, you have to look critically at what you can do about the situation.

Imagine if he thought he didn’t see you enough.

You can do your best to get it back. But he will never do that if he cannot see you more often. Even if you come together again, the relationship will not last long.

If this is because he is very busy himself, he does not have his priorities listed. If you become more flexible, the problem is not necessarily solved because it simply does not matter to you.

But if you were the person who has a full schedule you can choose to make more time for him. So that you can see each other more often and at better times.

Of course, you are not trying to convince him that the problem is now solved. That doesn’t work, whether you try it rationally or emotionally.

No, your goal is to make him wild with desire.

Because he misses you and he realizes how unfortunate it is that you are apart.

If you come around the corner with “ and I can see you more often too “, you will see that the choice to come back to you is made very quickly.

Tip 10: Will this man make you happy?

Just an interlude.

You put a lot of effort into a man now. But is he the person you want to grow old with?

I know you’re very sad because it’s out. But in such a case your emotions take a walk with you. Just read my article about heartbreak.

If you look very rationally at how your time was together.

Were you happy most of the time?

Or was it mainly stress and misery?

Could you do what you wanted?

Or did he actually stop you from achieving your goals?

If you answer “ no, no, and no “ to the last three questions and you answered “ he is the most important person ever “ to the first one, then you know it is good to try.

But if that is not the case, stop what you are doing. Even if you miss him. Even though you can’t imagine a life without him. Even though you think you’ll never get out of this deep valley without him.

The truth is that he will never make you happy.

Trying it again will not only cost you your time but also your rest.

Only if you are sure that he is the one is it wise to try it (in this article I will tell you how you can test if he is the one ).

Tip 11: Use your attraction

Do you know how men fall in love?

It has a lot to do with attraction. A man simply cannot fall in love if he does not find you attractive. He may like you very much and often want to go out with you.

If he does not feel that attraction, then a relationship is doomed to fail.

And it’s very crazy. But 9 out of 10 men will consider a relationship with you again based on that attraction. And in the first instance not be so concerned with the actual reason that it went out.

A smart man who still has feelings for you would ask: “ Hey, are you less busy now? Or do you still work 15 hours a day? “

But it does not work like that.

If he still has feelings for you and you walk past him in your most delicious outfit, he almost explodes with desire.

He can’t help it. Even though he knows it’s not good for him. He must be very strong to not go with you.

That’s why I want you to look again at what men find attractive in a woman. In a relationship, men want peace, a clear role, respect, and good sex. And in appearance, they think these things are important.

Or even easier:

Become the woman he has fallen in love with again.

You both have changed over the course of the relationship. You become more used to each other and are less concerned with tempting the other.

You have to bring that back. Get rid of your bad habits and make sure you have everything under control before you contact him.

I don’t have to explain to you how to make subtle contact with him. Only do this if he himself has polled a few times or has given your attention. And at such a moment, focus on showing him how attractive you are.

And then:

Tip 12: Level where it is

When you have a new contact with him and show you from your most attractive side, one thing is very important.

Is it a situation where he never wants to return to you, no matter how attractive you are?

There will be situations where you cannot solve the problem.

Or that he’s just done with it.

If this is the case and you seduce him, then you will only go to bed with each other a few times and then it will be over. Or he uses you for sex while your heart breaks into a thousand pieces.

You shouldn’t do that to yourself. That is why you have to connect (repeated) sex with your ex to the consequence that you are back together. Otherwise, you make it way too cheap for him to go to bed with you and he loses his appeal.

But before you even consider doing this:

Check if he would like to return to you in an ideal world. Do not listen to what he says but look at how he behaves. Use my test to see if he is in love with you and wants a relationship with you.

And be careful. Your heart and mental health are at stake.

If you are unsure, do not do it.

There are millions of nice men in the Netherlands. And I’m not even talking about the rest of the world.

It sounds very blunt, but you’ll find someone else again.

And now you can say: “ I just want to see you. “

Which is good. The chance that your heart will be broken is much greater than that it will be okay. When you see the signals I mentioned above, you know it’s smarter to walk away and leave it for what it is.

Making sure he will miss you. Based on these 12 tips, he will soon think of you again.

It is not by convincing or engulfing him, but it is the exact opposite.

Along with these ten tips to play hard to get, you will find that you will get a man who is increasingly yearning for you and making efforts for you.

I wish you the best of luck.

Do you want to know more?

Technique For Getting Your Ex Back in Your Arms…

Even Though You Think It’s Impossible, I’ll teach You How To Use This Technique To Compel Your Ex To Fall Back In Love With You Again… For Good!

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Let Him Come to You After a Break Up by Theresa Alice

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